So you’re worried things are going too fast. Making it official seems to be all that matters to her, and it scares you how much she cares. Don’t worry so much, maybe she just wants to be able to use that foolproof story that all her friends use at the bar to get rid of ugly guys: “Sorry, I have a boyfriend”.
You don’t want to be tied down? So you can play the field? I have to tell you something about the field bro: the other team never shows up. You and your buddies will make up an undefeated team that never plays. Even swinging singles need to have a next branch in mind before they let go or they won’t swing long.
Maybe you are nervous about the inevitable end looming in the distance. You have this premonition of standing there awkwardly, dreaming of freedom, as she cries on your shoulder. What you don’t know is that she is a much better actor than you are, and never really cared in the first place. You are just a vehicle to help her move through some life stage. A relationship notch on her belt. There might even be a girl scout badge for it.
What’s really holding you back? You’re still worried about needing to parachute out of the relationship express. Don’t be. She’ll dump you and start getting with someone twice your age, who actually buys her things. Take the leap and hope your rip cord is in working order. Who knows, maybe she will even be the one to catch you.
By: Nicolas Kendall-Bar